Well, you may came across many people around you saying this ‘Oh, I don’t judge people.. I like the way they are’. We might be like ‘alright, that’s good’.. When somebody made some mistake, you will see the same person who once said ‘I don’t judge anyone’ are the first one to comment to others on the person who made the mistakes & much worst, spread to everyone. These people will never look at the person in a same way after whatever things may have happened. WHAT AN HYPOCRITE right!! (This can be applicable to ourselves as well, so hear yourself when saying that you don’t judge others. Are you really a person who don’t judge? If you’re then, God Bless You & I love you). (:
The fact is, without knowing or realizing, somewhere & somehow we all tend to judge others. We judge them to be ‘someone who is good/bad, either for their flaws/perfection’. Our society have made up to be this way, even we don’t like it in some way, we just gotta accept the fact. Since we know the fact that people all tend to judge, then we just gotta make sure people are judging you in a good way than bad. I am not saying you have to be fake, I’m saying change yourself to be a better person. This is why our Good behaviour & Manners towards others are always important; at this point, you can’t tell someone to accept the way you are if you doesn’t know how to behave well towards others. Probably you be thrown away in the street or you be having real hard time surviving with others in society if you don’t possess good manners & behaviour.
Improving your bahaviour & manners will never put you in any place where others can judge you wrongly. It only make you a better & respectful person in eyes of others. You might have seen your parents being very strict towards you & they always emphasizing on behaving well in public when you were at younger age. Don’t think that they’re being unreasonable, please know that they are concern about how the society will look at you if one day you’re grown up to be a person with bad manners & behaviour. The way you are, most of the time will reflect how your parents have brought you up since you were young. Obviously no parents would want to hear something bad about their child; so it is our duty to behave well so that no one can say anything bad about you. If you think that you’re still young & you can be whatever & however you like, just think again; it will be easier for you to change the way you are while you’re young, so be in a best way you can be while you are young. By the time when you grown up to be someone older, I bet people like your friends/family/colleague & etc, all gonna look up to you & respect you for the way you are.
Just look around you, see all the people who are known to be successful; people like Adele / Taylor Swift / Johnny Depp / Leonardo Di Caprio / Emma Watson, we may admire them for their looks or talents; but all these people, have you ever noticed how they behave themselves when they are in public? I bet they always putting their best behaviour & manners when they are out (they might behave well because many eyes are watching them; but the bottom line is, they are being well behaved unlike other celebrities). The younger ones, you may be obsessed with some celebrities, but please don’t just see their looks or talent & admire them; there’re more good things to see in these people.
Adele - She may not be the prettiest singer, but the way she carry herself & showcase her talent certainly brings her the success. ‘Carry herself’, I’m referring to her behaviour & show herself in a way everyone respects her for her talent & not judged by her looks or anything.
Johnny Depp & Leo - I always like them for their humbleness & behaviour even when they are so damn successful.
See, the way they carry themselves (behaviour & manners) is what making these people look good & be admired by many of their fans around. If they are just plain talented people, I don’t think they have came this far or go any further.
Beautiful Look, is only skin deep; we are not gonna look good for rest of our life. So you might concentrate more on brushing up on your behaviour & manners than brushing up on having to look beautiful. And for those who are looking for someone to be with, look for a person with good behaviour & manners; because these are the people will probably end up with good character. She may not be the prettiest & he may not be the most handsome man, but if they have good manners & behaviour, they are definitely worth your time & love. No point being with or going after someone just because they are good looking; trust me, people lacking in good manners & behaviour & being in relationship with them based only on beauty, it is never worth it.
Remember to speak softly/gently to others, it won’t make you look weak; it only make you a person with good manners (only the immature ones will think you’re being weak. But you don’t have to worry about the immature ones anyway. So just let them judge you for being soft/weak, you know they are wrong *smile*)
Speaking rough / try to sound cool (using those F word often or any kinda vulgarities); do you think it really making you look cool? It shows you’re immature & doesn’t know well enough on how to carry yourself well. (Using those F word is kinda common word to use it these days when you’re very pissed or something. To certain extend, well it’s acceptable (best, don’t use it at all). But using it often when you’re having normal conversation to curse at someone or humiliate somebody or just on any simple matters are the time I am saying, just avoid using it. It’s making you look immature & I have seen many people like that).
There are many things to look into, but if you wanna be a better person to society/family, behaving well & good manners are the most basic thing you should have, and when you have these, rest of the good things will befalls on you automatically. Things are easier said than to be done; doesn’t mean I am saying all this so I must be a person with good behaviour & manners. Well, probably I myself have a lot to improve on myself, but at least I know where to focus myself to be a better person than I were before.
People gonna judge us anyway, so why not we showcase ourselves in our best for people to judge? (Again, I am not telling you to be fake in front of others to look good, just be a better person by behaving well & build good manners in you while you’re growing up so that you will be respected for the way you are) Once you have these 2 things build in you so strong, you can just be yourself without making any effort to be respected or look good in eyes of others. Without you realizing, you be one of those shining well in front of the society that judges; You can be damn sure they will judge you for good & they can never be wrong about you (don’t forget to be humble) (:
”The most beloved to me (Prophet Muhd) among you is the one who has the best character and manners.” (Narrated by Al-Bukhari)